There Is No Such Thing As Rejection
If you are a singer that has ever experienced rejection first hand, or you're a singer who lives in fear of rejection then this article is for you. I am going to tell you the truth about rejection and how to finally overcome that fear. Ready? Let’s dive in…
In my 12 year career as a vocal coach and mind-body therapist to singers from all over the world, I have found that the top number one issue that most of them face is the fear of rejection (the other one is not feeling good enough, but that is for next week).
Singers face rejection all the time; being told no in auditions, people not liking their material on social media, getting knockback after knockback from record labels, managers and even audience members at times. We live in a world where everyone and their dog can leave their views and opinions on your comment feeds and nobody os holding back from sharing it.
When you sing, you share the deepest part of who you are, your heart, your soul, your mind, your gift. And when someone doesn’t like it, tells you you’re worthless or you get a knockback, it’s almost impossible not to take it personally. The feeling off rejection runs deep, and it is something that almost every human being deals with on a daily basis.
But what if I told you there is no such thing as rejection?
“WHAT THE HECK?” I hear you cry! “YES, THERE IS, I’VE FELT IT!” I hear you cry!
Well here is the truth; when somebody rejects you, in order for you to feel rejected you have to believe it about yourself for it to affect you. For example, if somebody says to you “why do you even bother singing, you’re not that great”, for you to feel upset, sad, angry or affected emotionally there has to be a part of you that thinks that about yourself. Otherwise, you’d just shrug it off and move on.
This is actually the most empowering thing you can learn about rejection. It’s only ever YOU rejecting YOU. The person aiming it at you is just a mirror, a reflection for what is going on inside you. The great thing about this is once you realise the parts of you that are rejecting yourself, you can do something about it!!! You can do the healing or transformation work to grow and learn and build your confidence.
And then…? Well, you can actually become thankful that person that ‘rejected’ you because ultimately it gives you muscle and material for growth and expansion and leads you to realise more of your potential. When my clients learn this, they feel such a sense of empowerment and courage to go out there and face criticism, because, at the end of the day, everyone is going to have an opinion, but the thing you can change is how you react to and use that criticism.
If you’re interested in learning more about how therapy and vocal coaching can help you manifest a voice, career and life you love just book a free strategy breakthrough coaching call with me using the button below and I’ll talk to you about how that works.
Much love, from me, Gary, The Singer’s Alchemist, making this world a better place one song at a time.